And Counting...

Amazing. So far... as of today NOT ONE MAN was given what he felt was adequate guidance regarding his passage into manhood. I can see the number of people reading this blog continues slowly growing which tells me there is interest out there. Surprise, surprise - right? Anytime you new readers want to post a comment - read the "how to" post and type away: 1) How did you learn about the facts of life? 2) How do you wish you would have learned? Simple.

What I see in most cases where a young boy was given a 'talking to'... first of all congratulations to you men who tried to bring up the subject - I'm sure it was more than you were given. But a 'talking to' is not enough. It was not enough in the fifties and it certainly is not enough in today's culture. For the sake of those men who are not online, you may not be aware that there are plenty of twisted, conflicting opinions flooding the internet, T.V., movies, and now cell phones (!) regarding sexuality. This is a train wreck waiting to happen and I want to get our boys to safety.

Our sons need to be better equipped than past generations. The 'talking to' needs to include a 'listening to' for all the new questions being stirred in their minds by the world. God willing, this blog will become a website with an area dedicated to the millions of questions we can expect from our sons - along with a few million possible answers.

The 'talk' MUST be about more than the mechanics of sex. We need to begin presenting more of the frame work as well. With my 12 year old son, the wording I use teaches something. I do not speak about a man and a woman 'having sex'. Yes, I let him know he will hear the world speak of it that way - but there is so much more to it than that. I told him there is so much more to this than the world knows and it happens when a husband and wife 'share the marital embrace'. I want to put this in context from the start so as he is confronted by the language of our culture - built into the foundation of his knowledge is the term: marital embrace... This sacred exchange is meant to be shared in the context of marriage. Anything outside that embrace - pornography, masturbation, or fornication... degrades the beauty of this gift and diminishes your manhood.

One of my goals here is to encourage you not to forsake your calling as a man, a husband, a father. I'm talking to you single men, too. Don't think for a minute that you are not in some way a husband-figure or a father-figure for someone in your life. I want you to be the man, too, and not ignore your responsibility.

Teen-aged boys who wander into this site - please do not be fooled by the absurd examples of so-called 'men' you see on television. Real life is much different than what most screen writers are feeding you.

Young ladies, I know some of you will find this site, too... so for you: A couple of days ago I heard this great truth from a young mother. She told some of the 14 year old girls she teaches: "Do you want to know one way to tell the difference between a boy and a man? A boy will want to have sex with you now - a man will wait until you are his wife."

You girls who feel pressured into sex with a boy or a man who does not have the heart of a man - I pass along to you a term that I hope will haunt you in a good way. Years ago I remember a man sharing his remorse with me over his abuse of women. He said that in earlier years when he was so sexually active with a number of women - for him it was nothing more than "Sport-F---ing". Remember that term, young ladies, and may it give you a blast of confidence when you boldly tell the little boy or the man with a boys heart, "Sorry 'sport' but you need to visit this website and look me up after you grow the heart of a man."

The so-called 'sexual revolution' is not bearing good fruit. Almost every man I ask says pretty much the same thing: "I wasn't told a thing." "I wasn't given any guidance in this area." "I wish I had been given some advice." "I wish I could have had some answers to my questions."

This blog is another type of revolution. Not a return to the silence of the past - but a return to the common sense and wisdom of the past fused with the technology of today. I feel hopeful.
MJP