Trust me - I will try my best to get this guy's name and ask him to share his story in his own words. I am bound to get a few things wrong, however... I do recall being blown away by his example to his young son.
This was back in Oklahoma. This man was suffering because his wife had decided to move out of the home, asking for a divorce. When their young son would stay at dad's house he would ask for chocolate milk at bedtime - saying his stomach was upset. Dad made it a nightly ritual. They would go sit at the kitchen table where dad would pour two cups of chocolate milk. Dad raised his cup and said something like, "Here's to your mom." The son would smile and for that moment their family was together again.
What an amazing man. What a blessed son. No we cannot spare our children suffering but we can pass onto them the tools needed to help them endure, carry on, succeed, and continue to love.
This fortunate son of the 'Hero Dad' was not forced to divide his heart or mind in two. By choosing to love the mother of their son - even after she had rejected him - this man was able to provide a place for his son. Not just a place to sleep - but a place where his heart could stretch out and relax in peace. No forced separation.
Hero Dad#2: If by chance you are given this blog address - though right now I am forgetting your name - I will never forget your example.
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